Do It Anyway...!!! By- Mother Teresa

You are unique and so are your goals...!!!

A lot of times there are things and events that hurt us as we compare ourself with some people. We try to get what others received without even once thinking that we are not the ones who actually want those things. Each one of us have different motives in life and not everything is that we should be aiming to achieve. A focus on a single target makes life easy and more understandable. 

" I might be good at some thing and you might be perfect with the other..!!!"

Does this mean I need to be perfect at what you are do. NO. I need to get perfect with things which are important in my life and not in yours. ;) 

Setting priorities and making sure they are your targets is one of the foremost things a person should target. Many of us wander around and get diverted from the actual path just because we see some one else doing something. 

We need not be perfect in things we like or things we do but if we give our best then the results will surely be outstanding ( I say this from experience) . 

When we achieve things that we actually want in life and the ones we have always been targeting then no-one can take away the satisfaction we get. 

"You are unique and so are your goals...!!!"

Don't waste your time and energy trying to compare yourself and running behind things that never mattered in your life. Focus on your goals and your acheievements. They are the ones that matter in life, in your life.

You create your own WHIRLPOOL...!!!

A few moments can change your life. 

You never know who you meet in life and what role they play in structuring your life. 

It's all a whirlpool. 

Once you enter into it.. you cannot predict when you will come out. The events inside is something that are unplanned and will fascinate you by their beauty. The unexpectedness of these events make it even more interesting to live into them.

Round and round the whirlpool moves and with it moves the graph of excitement. 

Hundred of things in a single moment and all we should do is live them.

Life has a lot to give if we know how to take. 

Many of us get drowned in these events of life. Some because of the happiness they give and some because of the pain. But they all have a pleasure in its own way. 

The thoughts inside one's head are never less than this. They are enough to create a life which can be disastrous to ourself or good enough to make a change in our destiny.

To think about this is what I leave it on you now.

THINK...!!! THINK...!! 

Live in your WHIRLPOOL...!!

Happiness and Success... How you see it...??

Your happiness and Success lies within you..!!!

One's perception about things is what leads him to the edge of happiness and success. Very few people have the insight to see the good even in bad... to take failure as stepping stones to success. Most of us including me get disappointed and depressed when we see things going opposite to what we wanted. 

The real happiness lies within our self  and on how we treat our self. 

Success comes to those who know the pain of failure and use that pain as the learning step and move forward with it. Those who let the pain get over them our the ones who mostly never tend to come out of it.

The capability to see the best in the worst is the true strength of the a person. 

On this note, all I would say is 

" Be the reason for your own happiness...!!!"

Rain makes everything Beautiful...!!!

Tip... tip... tip... tip... tip... and the drops of rain flow down from the forehead... slowly towards the eyes and then touching the cheeks gently moving towards the lips.. and then you feel the wetness of each drop and the touch of each drop as a beautiful touch of the lover. Feeling the rain and its each drops is just an out of the world feel for me.

Rain.. thunder.. strong wind... and heavy rain after that is something many of us cherish. It makes us realize the beauty of nature more deeply. The thirst of the Earth gets relived and the fragrance of mother Earth just makes all the rain-lovers nostalgic. The weather takes an amazing turn with the arrival of monsoons and everyone is relived from the burning sun and the heat is left behind.

Sitting near the window and writing this post makes me feel love rain even more. Drops that clung on the end of the leaves.. drops that slowly trip down from the window sill.. drops that directly embrace the Earth.. each of them have their own beauty.

PS: Dancing in the rain is something that I feel like doing right now.

Life is about Adventure...!!!

I see many people complaining about life being tough.

People often see difficulties as pain. They never see the positive side of it.

Its becomes very hard to do something out of the box and move out of your comfort zone. We all tend to play safe. "Why Risk" is what we all generally feel.

But will life be fun without risk, without adventure. Would it be worth if life would have been easy. If there would have been nothing to fight for, nothing to achieve, nothing to dream about. I personally feel Life would have been really boring if things would have been simple.

I just love when I do something beyond what I expected. I feel satisfied when I achieve my goals. I feel happy when I do things that I never thought I would be able to do.

Life is fun only when we deal with the problems. The adventure makes us alive.

Live Life.. Love Life...!!!

Profession - Joy Or Stress???

The most commonly asked Question “What do you do??” 

Some of us are happy to answer it and some of us answer it but not that happily.

Our profession and career play a vital role in our life. Infact, this is what somewhat becomes our identity. Our social profiles on Facebook and Twitter also contains at least a tagline of our careers leave alone the whole big professional profile on LinkedIn.

Whatever we do in lives for our living is definately important to build as an individual.

But do we chose our career correctly? Are we all happy with our professions or sometimes we do feel that I would have done better in some other. 

Atleast, I do feel this. Being an IT professional, a software developer to be more precise, I do sometimes feel that I would have done better if I would have chosen my career differently.

Recently, I meet someone who asked me “Do you belong to software industry?” I replied “Yes”. But there was something that made my voice a bit unusual. That guy owns a quite well-known designer clothes shop. He was happy and excited when he heard my reply but also showed his discontentment as being a business man he could spare good time for his friends. Soon a discussion started between my group and this guy which was nothing else but each trying to point the cons of their jobs. None of us were speaking of positive things. This made me wonder that do we justify ourselves when we chose our career.

Well, this is just a small incidence but most of face the same situations. We are never content with what we do. But on the other hand, I even have friends who just love their work because it is not only their job but also their hobby and their passion. We can always see the difference when we meet such people. When passion becomes the source of earning it makes us work double hard and also the input at any time is always at its best. 

You happiness some what depends on our professions because we spend nearly more than half day working and if the work is stressful then it surely affects the other time we have with family and friends. We all may not be able to make our passion as career but we can surely spend some time with it. After all, it somehow makes us happy and makes us what we actually are.

You are the Owner of your Emotions...!!!

I look around and see most of the people complaining about something or the other. Some seem to be unhappy with their personal lives, some are sad with their jobs, some complain about weather, someone who is shouting on some product company, someone angry because they were stuck in traffic and got late to work and the reasons for people complaining is just countless.

All of us seem to be missing something or the other in our lives. We expect more and are never happy with what we have. Majority of us don’t even try to figure out where the problem came from. I even see people worried or complaining about how others are.

This is something I am unable to understand. 

All of us seem to complain about things but we never try to find a solution for them.

We get angry because of traffic on road but we don’t prefer car-pooling.

We complain about get wet in rain but we don’t carry a umbrella or rain-coat.

We are upset because of our personal lives but we don’t try to discuss it with our family.

We are unhappy with our jobs but we never try to find better jobs or do something to improve our career.

Getting angry, upset, sad etc are normal emotions but letting these emotions take a upper hand on out life and our living is what we need to avoid.

Just live and face it all. 

“I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” 

- Oscar Wilde

Always SMILE...!!!

SMILE till you have teeth…!!!! 

Life is full of problems.. but staying happy and smiling is what makes us cope up with everything. Tensions or pain is in everyone’s life but you never know when your smile can bring a smile on someone’s face and make that person forget his/her problem for sometime and what is more beautiful then making someone happy even if its for a small time.

A smiling face is always adored and it makes us look beautiful and who doesn’t like beauty. So live it up and smile even if their are problems coz a smile lasts for some seconds but the memory of it lasts forever..!!!

SECRET ADMIRER (FINAL PART)...!!!

….and yes i fell in love..!!!!

(BEAUTIFUL WORDS AREN'T THEY… )

Love, attraction, infatuation is something that we all go through at one phase of life. All these feelings seem to be all around us and we get captivated. The world seems the best place and people in it the most amazing creatures. (yes i call them creatures because they are very difficult to understand) Each one of us when in this phase of life feel that the world and this life is the best place to live in but believe me all that glitters in not gold. All the shining feeling soon comes to an end and the world becomes seems to be worst place and the people in the most disgusting creatures.

Same thing happened with our heroine of the story, the so called feeling of love soon disappeared and hatred took its place. The place where she loved going soon become a place which she most hated going. She felt a urge to run away where no one can ask her how it all went about. There was once a time when she hated when her "admiration" didn't come to the office but soon she started this feeling better as his presence brought goose-bumps in her stomach.

Things took a U-turn in her life. She was forced to think about her feelings for this one person who all of a sudden became so important that his decisions and choices affected her so much. 

After a lot of introspection, she realized that love and admiration are great feelings but there is no point sacrificing everything just for nothing. A person who cannot respect you and your feelings at the correct time doesn't deserve to be the one to be shown all your love. Being strong enough, she took the decisions to move on in life and move away from things that have been hurting. Soon came the time when this decision of hers came into play.

Admiration that was once formed without knowing anything about the other person can obviously not go away that easily but it can be respected. It can be nurtured to make yourself more strong and understanding the physics of living happily. Grudges and pain can be kept in the heart and lead to our own destruction or people can be forgiven and we can move forward with a head held high. 

At some point we do have realization that are necessary in life and can surely be a turning point in life.

"Making someone a part of your life is amazing but it is indeed beautiful if you are a part of the same person's life."

This person will always be special to her and his place will surely never be taken by anybody else but the lessons he has unintentionally taught her will always remain by her side even though she is moving herself away and she will be his "SECRET ADMIRER" and yes she had fallen in Love…!!!

Wealthy is a person who.......

Just browsing through and I found this image in front of eyes and it made me stop scrolling down the page.

In the materialistic life of today, we all think that money can buy anything and everything but of course this is not true. Money is just a part of wealth but never the way to measure it. It is something that can make us buy and possess things of comfort and joy but never the things that create joy. Real joy and happiness comes from things that make our heart smile and not just our lips. The smile that is smiled with the heart is the one that is adored by all.

Owning and possessing things that cannot be bought by money is the real source of joy and thus shows the real wealth of a person

After all, its the people who gather around your coffin that matters and not the cost of the coffin.

Agony of Life...!!!

"Expectation is the root to all heartache…!! "

-William Shakespeare

Wonderfully quoted and so truly believed, this quote by William Shakespeare raises a sense of self question in me. It makes me think about the depth of life. It makes me think of my life.

Often we are in pain and curse ourself because we have been hurt by someone. But does someone really has the power to hurt us? No. Its us only who hurt our own self and then by some means blame others for being the cause for our pain and suffering.

I personally had many heartaches and the reason i felt it was because I expected from people. I believed that I will have my so-called close ones with me during my trauma times, they will support me and be by my side. Here is where the heartache begins. Just because of expectations. I expected things from people and it never seemed to have given the happiness i thought of, instead it left me with a feeling of insecurity and scars on my heart. The moment we count on something or somebody to be the source of our joy and happiness comes the time we allow intruders in our space. We realize and feel a discomfort and inconsistency. We ruin prospects of any upliftment and the journey of life becomes a stress.

Heartaches distress us and we feel a certain kind of resentment towards everyone and this bitterness gradually becomes a stain in our soul. This is very harmful indeed. So, why risk? and it is not a small risk. We expose ourself to the danger of repulsion and hard feelings towards the world.

So, the question that arises in my mind is Why Expect? Where does these expatiation arise from? 

The only valid answer coming to me is because we tend to the same things for others or believe that we will be doing it when the time comes. So, again the problem emerges from ourself only.

So, simply do things and acts of kindness without expecting the same in return as it will only lead to pain, suffering and wrath towards people.

“If you expect nothing from anybody, you’re never disappointed.”

Blessed Indeed...!!!

"People come and go in your life but only very few leave a footprint in your heart…!!! "

We meet many people of every sort in our life but we get attached to only a few, who indeed become special to us in just a small amount of time. The presence of such people is always a source of joy and contentment to us. I too have such a person in my life, to whom i dedicate this post of mine as its his birthday today. 

We all desire for some qualities in the special ones in our life but all these are just mere things that seem to be of no more importance when you find a perfect person with whom you can share your thoughts and yourself. You may be different in caste, culture and thoughts but the little bond that ties two people together is above everything else.

It takes times for any relation to blossom and it is indeed difficult when you are unable to give that time as your special one cannot be close to you. Such a case is surely heartbreaking. But this is not the end as some people feel it is. It is just the beginning of the understanding that is needed in any relation. You start cherishing the small time you spend, the little talks to have, you care unconditionally and more over you believe and the more you believe the more you feel the worth of it.

A very similar thing is there with me. A friend cum support, always there by my side in just a small span of time. The moment when we thought to make our bond stronger and stability in our friendship was the time when he had to go away from me. Difficult it is for us but also its testing our patience and our commitment to the great bond we share. The level of maturity and clarity of thought is just one thing that has made me adore him. 

The distances between us is going to a big one and we know it but this is what makes us cherish even our fights let alone the good times.

Blessed to have a friend like him. He is surely going to be great partner and also i always wish the best for him. Happiness and success is all I pray for him.

“Friends come into our lives and friends leave our lives. But friends never leave our hearts. And best friends always get to stay in the best places in our hearts.”

SECRET ADMIRER (Part 2)

"One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving."
-Paulo Coelho

Days pass, weather change and so do people and their feelings but in our story the admiration of Khusboo is still at a peak. Though, there is a difference now. She has understood that she has to accept the reality and let go of the few things. 

As months passed and the year came to an end, Khusboo was in an unstable state of mind. Small things started hurting her and soon she become vulnerable. The flair of the relation had already subsided from one end and she started feeling that she was a worthless asset in everyone's life. She decided that she will ignore and forget her "admiration" and things will soon be normal for her, but this did not happen. Day in and day out it became heart breaking for her to work in the office. Daily she would be hurt and daily she would feel like crying her eyes out. Unluckily, she reached a point where her tears had also dried up. Many ups and downs took place in her personal life which she wanted to share with her "Admiration" but he seem to never understand her need and even she could not speak out. She started hating herself for ever being close to him and also loathed going to her office.

The pain that she faced started affecting her health and all because of one reason that she hated herself. Unaware of the consequences, she was ignored herself completely and was only wanting to leave the place so that she could forget him and her admiration. But, lucky are those who are able to do such things and she was not that lucky. No option was coming her way. All that happened that her admiration grew and is still growing both personally and professionally.

Now was the time to take a hard decision for her betterment. She decided that she needs to ignore him personally and maintain just a formal professional relation. This seemed very difficult at first but she had no other option. She felt broken. It seemed that he was his only friend but she was wrong, of-course. The problem was that she was close to him and the only thing that was making her a victim was her own thoughts. She gathered courage and tried doing what she wanted.

Soon, she realized that the mantra of happiness lies in herself. She was happy when their friendship grew but was unhappy when the relation declined (same happens in any sort of relation), so why not to accept the reality and face it. Embrace whatever was coming her way. She cherished the small talks that came their way, the small smiles that passed between them and most importantly the time they had spent together. Nothing is permanent and she realized it. Everything that goes high up has to come down at sometime, may it be a thing or a relation.

Its been quite a time that they both know each other. She still remembers the first day she saw him. She remembered the look that made her admire him. Her care and warmth for the relation has grown subsequently. She understands that life is about loving and admiring things that come your way without expecting anything in return. All said and done, she still respects him and admires him and will always be his SECRET ADMIRER. After all, it was her and her heart which admired him.

Where fairy tales ends.. real life begins..!!!

Where fairy tales ends.. real life begins..!!!

This is one of the quotes that I truly believe in life. Fairy tales are one thing that mostly all of us have read, heard or seen and sometimes unconsciously we start dreaming of a life that is shown to us in these tales but they misguide us and also works as a heart breaking experience for many of us who are not able to realize the difference between fairy tales and reality.

Life's beautiful if you know how to look at the beauty of it. It may give us pain, pleasure, happiness and sorrows but this is altogether what life is all about. The happy endings in fairy tales is not always as happy as they seem to be and also it leads us into a world of misconceptions about life. Believe me if Life turns out to be fairy tale then we ourselves are gonna be the first ones wanting to be out of it. The ups and downs in life proves that we are still alive and shows us what real life is and also that we are not living in the world of dreams and fairies. After all, all have been bedtime stories and stories for kids.

Tales like Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Beauty and the Beast, etc are just imprudent and also don't resemble the real life we live in. Happiness comes and is  always adored and welcomed with open arms and so does sadness and sorrow comes but it may not be welcomed but it does not stop neither can it be ignored or left unfelt. The real happiness can only be experienced after we know how pain and sorrow feels.

Each new day brings with it the new excitement and also a sense of fulfillment if we enjoy it. To live each day to its fullest and get the best of everything is something that is not that easy but surely not that tough as it may seem. Accept the reality and not live the life of fairies is what we need to understand. Things that seem to be the prettiest may not turn out to be alluring.

Real life is more exciting and contending than fairy tales and the faster we understand this, the better it is for us.

The distinction between tales and real life is a must to know and when we get to know it, then believe real life is more appealing to us and the more we live it, the better it becomes.

Life is about Experiment...!!!

Sometimes in life we face the confusion as to which path to follow. We get influenced by people and their thoughts make us doubt on our beliefs of life. But is this permanent? Are we really changing by what people show us? Or is our own roadmap of life the correct one for us.

Well all this depends on how early we disillusion ourself, on how early we accept the fact that its our own nature and beliefs that make us what we are in real. 

The change in human nature is the ultimate result of influence which is only temporary. This change may seem a major alteration in the road maps of life but in real these changes are just the part of disillusions that occur to make us more strong on our beliefs. These are just big stones that help us set milestones for us and a major part of self-growth. It helps us mostly to know ourself and set our priorities and also to make a set of guidelines or a manual of things that we chose to walk in life with.

I can better quote it by saying that Its better for us to be ourself because everyone else is already taken and believe me this is well experienced and experimented thing by me personally. You may like being like someone or like to copy someone but this is just gone with the wind. It may buy you happiness for a period of time but in the end its only you and your real nature that defines you and the source of ultimate happiness.

Now the question that arises is should we not get influenced by people? If we chose to then surely we lose a part of ourself and if chose not to then we may detach ourself from the best changes for us. So, to help ourself we need to experiment. We need to try it out but make ourself flexible enough so that if it seems to be giving bad results then we are able to come back into the original part of us (it may take a bit of time though but its worth it). 

Mark my words when you get back to yourself its gonna be more fun filled feeling. You'll feel more wise, more secure, more mature and part of you will sit in the corner having your favorite slush or the best cup of coffee. It is going to give you the feeling of being awesome if not perfect and your life will surely invite more of adventure, more of awesomeness and itself attract a lot of positive energy.

Life is about changes. Life is about experiments. Life is about Realizations.

PS: This is a short report on my personal realization that i sought from my own experiment.