Teenage Confusions...!!!

Why is marriage considered the final step of any relationship?

Is it really important to give a name to a relationship?

Cant a girl and boy be friends?

The list to such questions is never ending and many youngsters tend to think on these lines at least one in there lifespan. Alas, often they don't get the answers.

Relations, love, infatuations, etc. are very common terms heard where one is not sure (most of us) which is the correct path for him or her when it comes to taking the personal decisions. Peer pressure, professional pressure, family pressure, all these also come along and hence making it even more difficult to have personal thoughts.

When asked, "What do you wish to see in your life partner?", the answers are not every convincing and it is mostly on what is seen in movies or read in books. The reality of what we expect is far from the answers given. It takes a lot time, personal space, understanding oneself which can make us actually have some opinion on our life partners.

Some may not agree and might say that my life-partner is my school sweetheart or my college darling, well yes, that can happen too and that also mostly is the result of the endless phone conversations, small letters, notebook notes that would have been passed multiple times and knowingly unknowingly, the two people understood what and who can make them happy and that of course, is the benefit of long invested time :D

Marriage or tie-ing a knot is probably important in Indian society (love or arrange :P) but what matters is the happiness and well-being of two individuals. We live in the modern world and tend to meet hundreds of people, some actually leave a footprint in our hearts, some become our friends, many just get lost in the crowd and few becomes our best buddies. Named or un-named any relations we make in our life, teaches us something, it uncovers a part or a quality of us which would have otherwise taken a long long time.

Being in the same age group, many questions do haunt me at times and I haven't got the answers to many of them, all I would say is go with the flow and discover yourself. After all,  

"Loving yourself isn't Vanity, it is SANITY...!!!"

The journey with a Driver...!!!

As a lead Driver I was really looking forward to what the journey ahead lay. On going through the requirements and various discussions, it didn’t seem to be an easy road trip. The challenges that hovered included a lot of dependency on Push notifications and Geofences.

We believed our road trip in building this application would turn over the original road trips these drivers take on a daily basis. All the thoughts came true after being on the field with actual Drivers on a CEMEX plant and going with them to various job sites for which CEMEX provides construction materials.

The road was not always smooth and we had a bumpy ride with quite a few road blocks. Slowly and gradually we cleared the field as we reached the milestones. After a long drive of six months and many breakdowns later, being a “Driver” with the real Driver in a truck was true bliss. 

 

A typical day in the plant would start with Clock-in followed by activities like inspecting the truck and informing the Batcher that the truck is ready to load. On receiving the order the app would kick in. Each of the status gets triggered automatically as and when the process is complete like Loading, Loading Complete, To Job etc.  On exiting the plant and reaching the Jobsite, the geofences comes into play and it was amusing for the Drivers to see that it all worked automatically. They could even get the Proof of delivery signed in the application, which is currently a process on paper, and I could see their delight when they nodded their heads. 

 

The trip that started from a meeting room in Garage reached all the way till the CEMEX plant in Monterrey. All road blocks were worth it after seeing a contented smile on everyone’s face in acceptance of the application.

PS: This is a real experience from my professional life.

Travel- A new chapter in the book of experience...!!!

Buenos dias, A very Good morning
Most of the people would be thinking why I am talking in Spanish. Well that's because I am here in Mexico experiencing a new chapter in the book of my life.
I travelled from India to Mexico a week back. Capturing the various sites and making memories here, I realise that Monterrey (the city from where I write now) looks so like Dehradun (my hometown).

These vallies are actually taking away my breath. The sunset is just so beautiful with a few final rays touching the sky covering the peaks.


A new country, a new city, new language and a new experience. Travel is the one of the most important aspect in the learnings of life. Variety of experiences are all added in the book of experience in a single shot. One gets to learn to know and understand people and various cultures. People all across the globe are same, the only thing that varies are the looks, way of living and defiantly the though process (the major thing that marks us different).

All said and done, its just the beginning of this new chapter, any new realisation in this journey will make its way here, till then "Adios" :)

Lesson learned in daily life..!!!

Sitting in office in my cubicle with headsets plugged in reminds me a lot of things today. Many incidences come randomly in my thoughts and I wish to write all of them down and get the best out of each. Its not possible though as I have few tasks to complete. But I definately got a good lesson from the series of recent events.
We all go through extreme and various conditions and meet a variety of people. Each person has its own qualities. But some of things mayn’t be what we expect to deal with in normal daily life. I too met one such person dealing with whom pissed me off initially but it has given me a lot of understanding about my self and human behaviour.
I believe that most of us get annoyed if some pokes his nose in our work constantly, if someone screws down your work, if someone affects our capabilities and raises a finger on us (if its not for a good) and a lot of other things that effects our peace of mind. This might be personal or professional but it does impact us a lot. 

I have generally heard that position brings calmness in people. The higher you go, the softer you become.
You tend to understand people and your experiences makes you calmer and peaceful.
but what if the case is extremely opposite. I don’t tend to point at anyone but yes it showed me something I didn’t expect. It came as a learning. It brought me to understand what I as an individual need to avoid in the years to come.

I read somewhere and it does inspire me:

“Believe this, “the higher you go, the further you see” and also “the further you see the clearer you hear; “the clearer you hear, the wiser you become”!” 

its just that we become stronger....!!!

Our experiences.. our struggles... our battles... our encounters in life..!!!

As time flies away.. all these things does not make life easier.. its just that we become mature and that is what makes us stronger. The more we move forward in life.. the more determined we become. 

Each of us have our own separate battles to face and we need to fight on our own and all alone. We have certain paths to cover and our destinations are different and so with it our roads also differ. Move on.. conquer new challenges.. overcome your fears.. climb up the mountains.. and there you will emerge with flying colors

I personally believe 

"If life throws lemons at you.. be sure to catch them and make a lemonade...!!"

My scars make me what I am...!!!

Broken into fragments, tears in eyes, aching heart, a doubt on yourself.. all such emotions and thoughts come hurrying towards us when we end relations and move away from people who played an important role in our life.

People don't stay with us forever and nor do any relations come with a warranty card. But still it becomes hard for us to face broken relations. We get ditched, cheated and have broken hearts and all this take us into a state of trauma. But is this the end? Why after such encounters we detach our self from some feelings. Why do we get scared of falling in love again or why do we stop mingling with people.  Well.. I don't have the answer to this question.

I have often heard and read that we should move on.. The show must go on. Yes, it does goes on.. but it takes time. Recomposing our self to accept some realities takes time. But somewhere in this process we do lose a important part of our self. Losing will not be a appropriate word.. instead I should say in this process we find a part of our self. We know what makes us weak and what makes us strong.

As an individual who has faced these emotions, I feel its a part of growing. All these things makes me think the way I think today. After many heart breaks and ditched and cheated upon many times, I have become an individual with my own set of rules and have my own self-respect. I still do fall in love, still face heart-breaks, still cry out my eyes, still go in low and sad moods, but in the end of it all, I am strong, stronger than I was ever before.
 I walk with my head held high. I have experience of things. I have come out of traumas. I have lived it. I have pain. I have love. I have tears. I have emotions. I have scars and they make me what I am today.

Think Big... Think Positive...!!!

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” 

― Albert Einstein

How the incidents in our life affect us… I feel this when I look back today. 

Sometimes the decisions we take make us travel the less travelled road. We are alone on that path but its only our faith that gives us the courage to move ahead. 

“The Road less Travelled” was something I always heard and read about but soon I felt I saw it too. To come out of comfort zone and live in a completely unknown world is something that we all fear at some point but believe me its worth it. It teaches you so much about yourself and how the world is. You socialise with different type of people, go around and see a whole different YOU. A newer and improved version of oneself is discovered. And moreover, the courage, strength, confidence and all something that is just amazing.

Every step in life is to remove the negativity and embrace the positively. Each decision we take teaches us something or the other. We all have a new set of experiences with every new move we take in life. 

This all may just look like a thought process but this though process is something that change the life of many around us. The way we perceive things is all a matter of thoughts. To nurture our thoughts is our responsibility and they make us take decisions which affects our life.

The way we take life and the lessons of life depends only on our thinking and to change it for good we just need to change our thinking.

7 things to love about Dehradun...!!!

Dehradun, often called as Doon Valley, geographically located in the State of Uttarakhand and situated in the foothills of Himalyas is one of the cities I just love belonging to. Being away for sometime has made me me miss the city and here I jot down few things that I most remember about Dehradun.

SCENIC BEAUTY AND WEATHER

The scenic beauty of Dehradun is mesmerising. From the valley the look of the mountains all around and on the outskirts the peace and look of the city is just beyond what words can describe. And how can i forget the look of Dehradun from Mussorie road, it is something that most of feel is just beautiful.

The weather is just awesome. Rain, clouds, sun all are in the best proportion.

HANGOUT ON MUSSORIE ROAD

The famous Mussorie road and maggi points which are one the best points to hangout and recollect memories and create few more new rememberable ones.

FAMOUS INSTITUTIONS

IMA, FRI, IIP etc  being the major attractions which add to the heritage and popularity of dehradun. Both these institutions have beautiful structures.

MAIN MARKET

Paltan bazar can never be replaced by malls. The evening strolls is also inviting to the youngsters to do some window shopping and enjoy a ice-cream at Gaylords.

WATER FALL

How can I forget the water springs. Shastradhara, Gucci pani, Lachhiwala and various springs like Shikhar falls, Bhatta falls attract a lot of people to enjoy in midst of day routines.

PEACE

The peace of the city is just amazing for meditations and the calmness attracts a lot of people to have Dehradun as a place to rejoice.

OUTSKIRTS AND NERABY PLACES

A few kilometres drive and you can go to the well known Mussorie, Dhanaulti and its outskirts , Rishikesh and its beautiful surroundings and also Ponta sahib cannot be forgotten.

The stroll on the mall road that one can never say a 'NO' to.

These are just the few things that people who have stayed in Dehradun will agree with. Each one of us who has spent some time may that be days or years in Dehradun will always cherish going back

PS: This post is dedicated to all Dehradun Lovers, so called Doonites.

Keep Moving.. Keep Learning..!!!

All of us dream of things that we want in our lives and also imagine a world of our dreams. We believe that life will some day give us things that we want and expect. We dream, we hope and we live.  Often these dreams may be unrealistic but we still dream of them. But to understand what the real world is all about we need to move out of our comfort zones and analyze the world. We need to take steps that lead us to learning and experiencing new things.

Well, I took the same step and relocated. New city, new people, new environment, new things and definitely new experiences. Life is all about realizing and learning. Isn't it?  Away from home, family and friends it becomes difficult to manage things initially but it is just a phase where we take time to settle but these are good learning days of life and here I am learning lots of things. Learning to be independent and manage myself that i thought would be easy but its not that easy. :P
Now here I am, 2 weeks in a new town somewhat happy and somewhat sad. But I will surely make it a great learning experience. Make moments. Live life and make it worth living. Life's amazing if you know how to make it amazing. Life's worth making realization if you know how to analyze and realize.

Finally, I would just like to add that Dream as much as you can. You never know when they just come live. :D

SECRET ADMIRER (FINAL PART)...!!!

….and yes i fell in love..!!!!

(BEAUTIFUL WORDS AREN'T THEY… )

Love, attraction, infatuation is something that we all go through at one phase of life. All these feelings seem to be all around us and we get captivated. The world seems the best place and people in it the most amazing creatures. (yes i call them creatures because they are very difficult to understand) Each one of us when in this phase of life feel that the world and this life is the best place to live in but believe me all that glitters in not gold. All the shining feeling soon comes to an end and the world becomes seems to be worst place and the people in the most disgusting creatures.

Same thing happened with our heroine of the story, the so called feeling of love soon disappeared and hatred took its place. The place where she loved going soon become a place which she most hated going. She felt a urge to run away where no one can ask her how it all went about. There was once a time when she hated when her "admiration" didn't come to the office but soon she started this feeling better as his presence brought goose-bumps in her stomach.

Things took a U-turn in her life. She was forced to think about her feelings for this one person who all of a sudden became so important that his decisions and choices affected her so much. 

After a lot of introspection, she realized that love and admiration are great feelings but there is no point sacrificing everything just for nothing. A person who cannot respect you and your feelings at the correct time doesn't deserve to be the one to be shown all your love. Being strong enough, she took the decisions to move on in life and move away from things that have been hurting. Soon came the time when this decision of hers came into play.

Admiration that was once formed without knowing anything about the other person can obviously not go away that easily but it can be respected. It can be nurtured to make yourself more strong and understanding the physics of living happily. Grudges and pain can be kept in the heart and lead to our own destruction or people can be forgiven and we can move forward with a head held high. 

At some point we do have realization that are necessary in life and can surely be a turning point in life.

"Making someone a part of your life is amazing but it is indeed beautiful if you are a part of the same person's life."

This person will always be special to her and his place will surely never be taken by anybody else but the lessons he has unintentionally taught her will always remain by her side even though she is moving herself away and she will be his "SECRET ADMIRER" and yes she had fallen in Love…!!!

WHO M I ???

I was once asked "What are YOU...??? What classifies and designs YOU...??? What is that influences YOU...??? What is that makes you what you are today..??

That was the time I was forced to think on the questions that just came by and I couldn't find a suitable answer. But today is the time that i have realized a perfect answer to these questions.

Its something that i wish to share here.

Something that influenced me and made me more firm on my roadmap of life.

So here it goes...

Where fairy tales ends.. real life begins..!!!

Where fairy tales ends.. real life begins..!!!

This is one of the quotes that I truly believe in life. Fairy tales are one thing that mostly all of us have read, heard or seen and sometimes unconsciously we start dreaming of a life that is shown to us in these tales but they misguide us and also works as a heart breaking experience for many of us who are not able to realize the difference between fairy tales and reality.

Life's beautiful if you know how to look at the beauty of it. It may give us pain, pleasure, happiness and sorrows but this is altogether what life is all about. The happy endings in fairy tales is not always as happy as they seem to be and also it leads us into a world of misconceptions about life. Believe me if Life turns out to be fairy tale then we ourselves are gonna be the first ones wanting to be out of it. The ups and downs in life proves that we are still alive and shows us what real life is and also that we are not living in the world of dreams and fairies. After all, all have been bedtime stories and stories for kids.

Tales like Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Beauty and the Beast, etc are just imprudent and also don't resemble the real life we live in. Happiness comes and is  always adored and welcomed with open arms and so does sadness and sorrow comes but it may not be welcomed but it does not stop neither can it be ignored or left unfelt. The real happiness can only be experienced after we know how pain and sorrow feels.

Each new day brings with it the new excitement and also a sense of fulfillment if we enjoy it. To live each day to its fullest and get the best of everything is something that is not that easy but surely not that tough as it may seem. Accept the reality and not live the life of fairies is what we need to understand. Things that seem to be the prettiest may not turn out to be alluring.

Real life is more exciting and contending than fairy tales and the faster we understand this, the better it is for us.

The distinction between tales and real life is a must to know and when we get to know it, then believe real life is more appealing to us and the more we live it, the better it becomes.

Two aspects of Life..!!!

Well, today i am here writing about one more of my realizations which i just had some time back and i guess i am gonna make it a stepping stone in my career.

While we are grow up and complete our studies, we all have that one aim to be successful in life, we aim for something good, we aim to have a bright career and get settled with a high salary and a good post, etc etc etc.

But is this really possible at a early stage? Is it possible to be successful in everything you do and get excellent results out of it.? Is it possible to be right always?

We all enter a so called professional life of ours and in a long time run we may get involved with people in more than professional ways and here is the biggest flaw. Here starts the confusion. Here begins a big downfall. You mix your personal and professional life and that though very badly (Something that i made a note of at the initial stage.. DONT MIX THEM, but unfortunately did it too). We are humans and tend to forget things that we think for ourself. This is but obvious that when you have a good relation with someone, you will feel hurt if he/she points you out for something that doesn't seem to be a mistake at a large. Unconsciously you have a hope that these people can give you some sort of security or even may help you at hard times. But believe me.. YOU ARE WRONG.

You are in biggest state of illusion if you have any such thing in your mind and trust me it makes you sick.

You can have any sort of personal relation with anyone but never ever expect that anyone is gonna stand by your side and protect you even if you are dying. Here comes the time when people who become attached to you in more than a professional way will prove that its the PROFESSIONAL WORLD. Your problems are your own. And believe me for one thing that the rules that any organization may have, can change according to the people who have the power.

Never display your feelings, only portray your attitude is the new guru mantra. 

People trust me, things seem perfect when you understand the difference between these two aspects of the same coin. It gets hard and hard it is for me at present just because i mixed them both but now is  high time in life when the two aspects move on smoothly just as they should be. 

Cheers to the new feel.. Cheers to the new realization and cheers to the respect of positions.

Life is about Experiment...!!!

Sometimes in life we face the confusion as to which path to follow. We get influenced by people and their thoughts make us doubt on our beliefs of life. But is this permanent? Are we really changing by what people show us? Or is our own roadmap of life the correct one for us.

Well all this depends on how early we disillusion ourself, on how early we accept the fact that its our own nature and beliefs that make us what we are in real. 

The change in human nature is the ultimate result of influence which is only temporary. This change may seem a major alteration in the road maps of life but in real these changes are just the part of disillusions that occur to make us more strong on our beliefs. These are just big stones that help us set milestones for us and a major part of self-growth. It helps us mostly to know ourself and set our priorities and also to make a set of guidelines or a manual of things that we chose to walk in life with.

I can better quote it by saying that Its better for us to be ourself because everyone else is already taken and believe me this is well experienced and experimented thing by me personally. You may like being like someone or like to copy someone but this is just gone with the wind. It may buy you happiness for a period of time but in the end its only you and your real nature that defines you and the source of ultimate happiness.

Now the question that arises is should we not get influenced by people? If we chose to then surely we lose a part of ourself and if chose not to then we may detach ourself from the best changes for us. So, to help ourself we need to experiment. We need to try it out but make ourself flexible enough so that if it seems to be giving bad results then we are able to come back into the original part of us (it may take a bit of time though but its worth it). 

Mark my words when you get back to yourself its gonna be more fun filled feeling. You'll feel more wise, more secure, more mature and part of you will sit in the corner having your favorite slush or the best cup of coffee. It is going to give you the feeling of being awesome if not perfect and your life will surely invite more of adventure, more of awesomeness and itself attract a lot of positive energy.

Life is about changes. Life is about experiments. Life is about Realizations.

PS: This is a short report on my personal realization that i sought from my own experiment.

Life As I See It...!!!

Years pass, memories retain… both sweet and sour and with all memories we have to live life… sustain happiness and also live through it all. 

Yes, this is all about Life and how i see it..

We all create our road maps in life, our beliefs and our lifestyles and yet at some times we feel that we have been wrong all along. We make changes in our maps and start living again. But as more time passes, there happen to be more changes in our maps and in the end we find that we have complete different map from the actual blueprint we created. This is something that can be both encouraging and devastating.

Life gives us challenges, we need to face them, not run from them. It is what actually makes us strong. Behind what every person thinks and believes is only coz of these challenges and how we mould ourselves after each one of it. As is comically said " If life throws lemons at you then find someone with a vodka and have a great party..!!" But to add to it, don't get use to this vodka.

To make life worth it, all you need is to change our outlook on life. It is on us how we shape the things that life is throwing on us, we let them fall, we hit them back or catch them to make the best out of it.

To let go is a tough task and tougher when we don't understand the positiveness of letting go. There are always instincts that tell when is the time to let go and if we try to procrastinate then surely it is gonna be one thing that will take a lot of time to overcome.

So embrace all that what comes to you in life else it will embrace you and that though very badly.

This is Life as how I see it. Experiences and memories are all the bridge that helps to move along in this mysterious world and its unto us as to how much we explore it.