Teenage Confusions...!!!

Why is marriage considered the final step of any relationship?

Is it really important to give a name to a relationship?

Cant a girl and boy be friends?

The list to such questions is never ending and many youngsters tend to think on these lines at least one in there lifespan. Alas, often they don't get the answers.

Relations, love, infatuations, etc. are very common terms heard where one is not sure (most of us) which is the correct path for him or her when it comes to taking the personal decisions. Peer pressure, professional pressure, family pressure, all these also come along and hence making it even more difficult to have personal thoughts.

When asked, "What do you wish to see in your life partner?", the answers are not every convincing and it is mostly on what is seen in movies or read in books. The reality of what we expect is far from the answers given. It takes a lot time, personal space, understanding oneself which can make us actually have some opinion on our life partners.

Some may not agree and might say that my life-partner is my school sweetheart or my college darling, well yes, that can happen too and that also mostly is the result of the endless phone conversations, small letters, notebook notes that would have been passed multiple times and knowingly unknowingly, the two people understood what and who can make them happy and that of course, is the benefit of long invested time :D

Marriage or tie-ing a knot is probably important in Indian society (love or arrange :P) but what matters is the happiness and well-being of two individuals. We live in the modern world and tend to meet hundreds of people, some actually leave a footprint in our hearts, some become our friends, many just get lost in the crowd and few becomes our best buddies. Named or un-named any relations we make in our life, teaches us something, it uncovers a part or a quality of us which would have otherwise taken a long long time.

Being in the same age group, many questions do haunt me at times and I haven't got the answers to many of them, all I would say is go with the flow and discover yourself. After all,  

"Loving yourself isn't Vanity, it is SANITY...!!!"

The journey with a Driver...!!!

As a lead Driver I was really looking forward to what the journey ahead lay. On going through the requirements and various discussions, it didn’t seem to be an easy road trip. The challenges that hovered included a lot of dependency on Push notifications and Geofences.

We believed our road trip in building this application would turn over the original road trips these drivers take on a daily basis. All the thoughts came true after being on the field with actual Drivers on a CEMEX plant and going with them to various job sites for which CEMEX provides construction materials.

The road was not always smooth and we had a bumpy ride with quite a few road blocks. Slowly and gradually we cleared the field as we reached the milestones. After a long drive of six months and many breakdowns later, being a “Driver” with the real Driver in a truck was true bliss. 

 

A typical day in the plant would start with Clock-in followed by activities like inspecting the truck and informing the Batcher that the truck is ready to load. On receiving the order the app would kick in. Each of the status gets triggered automatically as and when the process is complete like Loading, Loading Complete, To Job etc.  On exiting the plant and reaching the Jobsite, the geofences comes into play and it was amusing for the Drivers to see that it all worked automatically. They could even get the Proof of delivery signed in the application, which is currently a process on paper, and I could see their delight when they nodded their heads. 

 

The trip that started from a meeting room in Garage reached all the way till the CEMEX plant in Monterrey. All road blocks were worth it after seeing a contented smile on everyone’s face in acceptance of the application.

PS: This is a real experience from my professional life.

I am a Sock and help me find my love...!!!

Hey All, let me introduce myself. I am sock and I keep your feet warm and protect you from all kind of shit that can harm your lovely feet. Here I am today narating my story of losing my beloved counterpart. I hope someone would read it and help me find my soulmate.

I lay there in the closet with other dirty clothes waiting for my turn to washed and reused again. My neighbours were a few soiled trousers and shirts and also I could see my community there, some other designed socks. All of us desperately waiting for our guardian to take us to the washer. The wash session was like a huge fair where we would meet a lot of relatives, friends and make few new relations. But like all other fairs, the crowd would be massive and there would be few bad people whom you need to be aware of.

One fine day, my guardian spared some time and took us to a her newly yet temporary washer. It looked quite different from the ones she normally took us to. I was very excited. I would experience some new swings and rides. I happy hugged my counterpart, the right foot sock. I asked her if she was excited and she happily nodded and was jumping to get inside the new white washer. Our guardian sorted us with our respective pairs and put is inside the washer. All my neighbours including me and my pair were thrilled. My guardian closed the door and put in some fresh aromatic detergent and turned on the washer after selecting warm water for our new ride. Slowly the water started falling on us with the detergent mixed. It felt just so good and perfect. Once the water was over us, the ride started. We swirled inside, once to the left and then to the right. Up and down, left and right, it just kept going on, I was enjoying it and so were all others. There was big smile on the right foot sock. I could slowly feel all the dirt being removed from over me and I could breathe in fresh air. This was a perfect ride. It went on for 1 hour. We enjoyed it but were tired and lay aside each other, waiting for our guardian to collect us. I was looking for the right foot sock but couldn't see her but I could hear her voice, talking to a blue colour shirt.
Time passed by, probably 2 hours but our guardian didn't come to take us. We all were dozing off to sleep, tired from the fun filled ride and then suddenly the door opened but a hand came in. I was happy, finally our guardian came, But the hand looked different. I wondered who is he? He just caught hold of our necks and threw us in the basket. My back hurt from been thrown down as I had fallen on the floor and not in basket. The man picked me and threw me in the basket. Most of us were hurt and didn't knew what was happening to us. We all became unconscious.
After some time when I woke up, it was our guardian looking at me with tears. I couldn't understand why she was sad. I thought of asking her, I tried getting up and saw she had arranged all the clothes in a pile with their pairs. I looked at my right to see how is the right foot sock doing and did she notice the guardian unhappy. I was surprised to see no-one on my right. I turned to see on the left and there was no-one. I got up and saw all other socks in the pairs. I freaked out. Sadness took over me too and I understood the reason my guardian was upset. I started crying and seeing that upsetting her even more.
Today, its 3 days after I lost my mate in that massive fair and I and my guardian daily go to the washer to check if someone by mistake took my partner but alas, we haven't found her yet.

My tears have dried up and so has my guardians pain. I knew how much she loved us both. We were favourite pair.
I have understood the meaning for the quote "What's meant to happen will surely happen". But I didn't realise I would lose my beloved in such a way.
A request to all the readers, if you find my counterpart, please help me be united with my love. My right foot Sock.

You create your own WHIRLPOOL...!!!

A few moments can change your life. 

You never know who you meet in life and what role they play in structuring your life. 

It's all a whirlpool. 

Once you enter into it.. you cannot predict when you will come out. The events inside is something that are unplanned and will fascinate you by their beauty. The unexpectedness of these events make it even more interesting to live into them.

Round and round the whirlpool moves and with it moves the graph of excitement. 

Hundred of things in a single moment and all we should do is live them.

Life has a lot to give if we know how to take. 

Many of us get drowned in these events of life. Some because of the happiness they give and some because of the pain. But they all have a pleasure in its own way. 

The thoughts inside one's head are never less than this. They are enough to create a life which can be disastrous to ourself or good enough to make a change in our destiny.

To think about this is what I leave it on you now.

THINK...!!! THINK...!! 

Live in your WHIRLPOOL...!!

Feel a bit more...!!!

So True..!!!

Most of the problems and pain people feel is because they think too much about it and end up in a pain that gets unbearable for them to bear.

The world is beautiful place to live in. There are lots of things that each of us face in our day to day lives. The problem comes when we let these things get over our minds and create a place for them into our thoughts. 

Our thoughts determine our state of living...!!!

The more negative we think, the more we trouble ourself.

The more positive we think, the more happy we are.

I believe that if a person takes out 10 mins a day to feel the moment in which he/she lives and just cherish that moment to its best then its enough to keep out of stress. Slowly, if we can make it a habit to think less and feel more then there would be no unnecessary pain. 

The morning sun, the sunset, the moon each have its own beauty and each signify itself. But if they trouble themselves by thinking about the shine of others they themselves will lose what they have to give. The best of us lies when we feel and keep ourselves in the present.

Be brave to say a Goodbye...!!!

Today I write this blog with mixed emotions. This is a learning and that's the reason I am writing it down.
When we move out from our native place in search of living and start a new life in a new city, the people we meet have a great impact on our lives. It matters a lot how we interact and jell up with the crowd. The same happened with me when I moved to Bangalore. The first of many people I met were the one's from the place I started working. Being in IT industry you don't expect people to be very helpful to you and neither did I expect that. Initial days were very tough, especially when you have no clue of the local language. It took some 2 months to make friends or at least start talking to people and make them realize your presence.
You may have heard life is cruel, Yes, It is cruel as times. But its worth it.
Trying to understand the people around you is one of the most difficult tasks. When you have no freaking idea what people on the table are talking because you don't understand the language, then yes life seems cruel.

Anyways, finally my communication started with people and I made a few friends. Life came on track after some 6 months. Work is enjoyed when people you work with are fine and so happened with me. I worked with some decent people.

Today, when I bid farewell to the organization, I was excited about my new endeavor, but also felt a moment where I realized I wont be coming back to this place and work with my same team, have lunch with my buddies. Moving on is important. But what matters is how gracefully you move on.

Everyday is a Second chance...!!!

We all look for chances… chances to grow.. chances to advance ourself into a better person.. chances to make the best of everything and truly each day is a new chance to build the best of us.

We sometimes feel that things didn’t go the way we wanted or the way we planned. We wait for chances to do the best. But isn’t it true that its us who create the chances. Directly or indirectly we are the ones who take steps for the chances to appear. Its just the way we perceive things.

One of the good quotes I read:

“Look on every exit as being an entrance somewhere else.”  

Happiness and Success... How you see it...??

Your happiness and Success lies within you..!!!

One's perception about things is what leads him to the edge of happiness and success. Very few people have the insight to see the good even in bad... to take failure as stepping stones to success. Most of us including me get disappointed and depressed when we see things going opposite to what we wanted. 

The real happiness lies within our self  and on how we treat our self. 

Success comes to those who know the pain of failure and use that pain as the learning step and move forward with it. Those who let the pain get over them our the ones who mostly never tend to come out of it.

The capability to see the best in the worst is the true strength of the a person. 

On this note, all I would say is 

" Be the reason for your own happiness...!!!"

A day well spent...!! :)

Its a bright day.. awesome weather... just the perfect one to go on a walk and feel the air. So I just thought to tighten up my clothes and go out for a little stroll. 

Out on the roads I see a puddles of water.. splashing into them just reminds me of my childhood days when jumping into them used to the most ultimate fun. Walking ahead I come to halt at the signal which is on my way to a park which was my destination. Looking around I felt how our lives have changed. 

How earlier we use to wait for the monsoons and the rains so that we can feel the rain.. feel the drops.. but now we wait for the rains to stop so that we can move out to complete our unfinished and pending tasks. How earlier we use to love getting drenched in rain and now he wait to avoid getting drenched. How a sunny day use to bring positive energies and now sunny days make us stay indoors. 

Well... leaving all my thoughts aside I walked along the road to reach my destination. To my astonishment I only saw all elderly people and just a few teenagers. Some of them were in mid of some yoga while others were busy in their own thoughts. I kept walking in the park to observe more people and enjoy the beauty of the weather while I rarely get to feel in the weekdays, when I am caught inside in the office with artificial air.

Moving on I decided to get seated on bench from where I could catch the glimpse of mostly all the people in that park. 

Being there for some time made me realize many more things. Starting with the change in the life in few years to the beauty of the weather and how I miss it. Going down the memory lane, I felt a bit nostalgic but I tried coming out of that and wanted to cherish the moment I am in.

An hour passed and I just didn't realize it. It started drizzling and each drop made me feel peaceful. More than I had felt in last few days. I just loved it and on the way back to my place I only felt it was a day well spent.

PS:  The motive of this post is to emphasize on the need of spending time amidst nature.

Stay Cool...!!!

Chill mar...!! Stay cool...!!

These terms we often quote to our self and others.

How hard it is to stay calm in situations of utter panic. We all plan things and never think of a backup or an alternate solution. We are too stuck in the old mindset of things to work in one go. Plan is something that is the outcome of our thoughts and we generally don't even consider the whole situation or problem. So, if our plan fails we only need to more carefully plan next time. 

The best mantra:

"Stay Cool and Chill Out...!!!" 

Stop wishing... Keep Doing...!!!!

It brings a smile on your face when you aare recognized for the work you did, for the challenges you faced, for the battles you fought. It gives immense pleasure to see someone's trust on you and someone relying on you. The feeling is amazing. But there is something even more important and that is standing with a head held high in front of yourself. If you feel good enough of yourself for your work then other's come secondary.

The struggles we face today give us strength that need in the future. This spirit of moving on in whatever conditions is what makes you the real hero.
Many times we wont have our backs patted by others but that is the time we need to pat our own backs, cheer of yourself, treat us and party hard.
Motivation is something that we all need to move forward and what can be a bigger motivation than to prove yourself. This only seems to be possible when you know your own worth and you believe in yourself. People might not understand your importance doesn't mean that you are not important.

Stop wishing... Keep doing..
You will touch the highest peak for sure.
This is what I have started believing and realized after a few sadist days-

"Look through the clouds and you will see a bright sun waiting behind...!!!"

Lesson learned in daily life..!!!

Sitting in office in my cubicle with headsets plugged in reminds me a lot of things today. Many incidences come randomly in my thoughts and I wish to write all of them down and get the best out of each. Its not possible though as I have few tasks to complete. But I definately got a good lesson from the series of recent events.
We all go through extreme and various conditions and meet a variety of people. Each person has its own qualities. But some of things mayn’t be what we expect to deal with in normal daily life. I too met one such person dealing with whom pissed me off initially but it has given me a lot of understanding about my self and human behaviour.
I believe that most of us get annoyed if some pokes his nose in our work constantly, if someone screws down your work, if someone affects our capabilities and raises a finger on us (if its not for a good) and a lot of other things that effects our peace of mind. This might be personal or professional but it does impact us a lot. 

I have generally heard that position brings calmness in people. The higher you go, the softer you become.
You tend to understand people and your experiences makes you calmer and peaceful.
but what if the case is extremely opposite. I don’t tend to point at anyone but yes it showed me something I didn’t expect. It came as a learning. It brought me to understand what I as an individual need to avoid in the years to come.

I read somewhere and it does inspire me:

“Believe this, “the higher you go, the further you see” and also “the further you see the clearer you hear; “the clearer you hear, the wiser you become”!” 

Is it really an act of maturity ??

The above image and its Quote is something that mostly all of us our familiar to and most of us go through that face of life.

Trying to hide your feelings and pretending like nothing is wrong...!!!

It might be considered as an act of maturity by many but I personally don't feel that. If we are mature, we will not be hiding our feelings instead we'll be facing them. 

Go ahead people.. face it straight...!!!

Don't neglect and ignore..!!!

Cherish it..!!!

Blessing or a lesson...!!!

How cruel is Life. How hurting it is when someone leaves you. How disappointing do things look.

Well.. all this does comes to our mind when people close to us move away.
Meeting new people, socializing, making new friends is all an ongoing process. We become close to some, move away from many and may not even remember a few. All this leaves an huge impact on us and our though process. But does meeting some or someone's departure make us stop living our life. Do we stop breathing. Do we stop waking up in the morning. Do we stop sleeping at night. NO..is the clear answer that practical people give to these questions.

People we meet come in our life for a purpose. Some are blessings while the others are a lesson. A person may be either of the two in one's life. A blessing for one may be a lesson for other. It all varies from person to person and is surely of great importance.
The process of learning starts from somewhere and it may be a person's presence or departure.

“In life, there are no mistakes, only lessons.” 
― Vic Johnson, Day by Day with James Allen

Life is about Adventure...!!!

I see many people complaining about life being tough.

People often see difficulties as pain. They never see the positive side of it.

Its becomes very hard to do something out of the box and move out of your comfort zone. We all tend to play safe. "Why Risk" is what we all generally feel.

But will life be fun without risk, without adventure. Would it be worth if life would have been easy. If there would have been nothing to fight for, nothing to achieve, nothing to dream about. I personally feel Life would have been really boring if things would have been simple.

I just love when I do something beyond what I expected. I feel satisfied when I achieve my goals. I feel happy when I do things that I never thought I would be able to do.

Life is fun only when we deal with the problems. The adventure makes us alive.

Live Life.. Love Life...!!!

its just that we become stronger....!!!

Our experiences.. our struggles... our battles... our encounters in life..!!!

As time flies away.. all these things does not make life easier.. its just that we become mature and that is what makes us stronger. The more we move forward in life.. the more determined we become. 

Each of us have our own separate battles to face and we need to fight on our own and all alone. We have certain paths to cover and our destinations are different and so with it our roads also differ. Move on.. conquer new challenges.. overcome your fears.. climb up the mountains.. and there you will emerge with flying colors

I personally believe 

"If life throws lemons at you.. be sure to catch them and make a lemonade...!!"

My scars make me what I am...!!!

Broken into fragments, tears in eyes, aching heart, a doubt on yourself.. all such emotions and thoughts come hurrying towards us when we end relations and move away from people who played an important role in our life.

People don't stay with us forever and nor do any relations come with a warranty card. But still it becomes hard for us to face broken relations. We get ditched, cheated and have broken hearts and all this take us into a state of trauma. But is this the end? Why after such encounters we detach our self from some feelings. Why do we get scared of falling in love again or why do we stop mingling with people.  Well.. I don't have the answer to this question.

I have often heard and read that we should move on.. The show must go on. Yes, it does goes on.. but it takes time. Recomposing our self to accept some realities takes time. But somewhere in this process we do lose a important part of our self. Losing will not be a appropriate word.. instead I should say in this process we find a part of our self. We know what makes us weak and what makes us strong.

As an individual who has faced these emotions, I feel its a part of growing. All these things makes me think the way I think today. After many heart breaks and ditched and cheated upon many times, I have become an individual with my own set of rules and have my own self-respect. I still do fall in love, still face heart-breaks, still cry out my eyes, still go in low and sad moods, but in the end of it all, I am strong, stronger than I was ever before.
 I walk with my head held high. I have experience of things. I have come out of traumas. I have lived it. I have pain. I have love. I have tears. I have emotions. I have scars and they make me what I am today.

Its OKAY not to be Perfect..!!!

The biggest tragedy of life is that we all strive to become perfect but we forget that the only thing that is important is the to become better than what we were before. The only competitor we have is ourself. In the race to become perfect we tend to take steps that eventually have a negative result. Be good to yourself and the world will follow. 
Its OKAY not to be Perfect..!!! 

True Love has NO Ending...!!!

Every love story does not have a happy ending. Some love stories are meant to stay incomplete.

Each one of us have fallen in love, love that we accept or love that we maynot accept. Sometimes we have the courage to say that it was love and sometimes we don’t even understand this amazing feeling and leave it buried deep down in our hearts and never unveil the reality.

I personally never could understand what LOVE has been for me. 

Is the feeling of caring for someone unconditionally a part of love or being jealous seeing that one person with someone else. 

Is it smiling just at the thoughts of that person or is it in grinning stupidly looking at them. 

Is it in praying for them when they are away and always wishing good for that person.

Is it in silently observing them from far away and taking away eyes if you are caught. 

There are this enormous list that confuses me. Well whatever it is.. it is something that surely is beautiful. All the small things that you tend to admire about one person openly or secretly is anyways beautiful. 

It is actually amazing to think how people change when they sense the presence of love around them. Love is always surrounding us but it takes us lots of time to sense and feel it and when we realise it we seem to be lost in the magic it does on us. Things that we never have even thought start happening in our lives. Days and nights seem to be colourful and beauty of everything is beyond what words can describe. 

The true eternal love doesn’t need anything to stay alive. Its meant to be there forever and always. Distance or togetherness doesn’t affect it. It just make it stronger and true love is a strength. 

I believe Love only makes us stronger and more stern. If we have the courage to love someone more than ourself, then there is nothing that cannot be achieved with that courage. Its only a matter of time when people start believing the power of Love. 

And yes, each love story may not have a happy ending but to make it perfect depends only on us. 

LOVE is bliss and people who have been in love will surely agree with me.

It all just reminds me of beautiful song by Boyzone:

You’re the air that I breathe

Girl you’re all that I need

And I wanna thank you, lady

You’re the words that I read

You’re the light that I see

And your love is all that I need

Just like a castle of sand

Girl, I almost let love slip right out of my hands

And just like a flower needs rain

I will stand by your side through the joy and the pain

Think Big... Think Positive...!!!

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” 

― Albert Einstein

How the incidents in our life affect us… I feel this when I look back today. 

Sometimes the decisions we take make us travel the less travelled road. We are alone on that path but its only our faith that gives us the courage to move ahead. 

“The Road less Travelled” was something I always heard and read about but soon I felt I saw it too. To come out of comfort zone and live in a completely unknown world is something that we all fear at some point but believe me its worth it. It teaches you so much about yourself and how the world is. You socialise with different type of people, go around and see a whole different YOU. A newer and improved version of oneself is discovered. And moreover, the courage, strength, confidence and all something that is just amazing.

Every step in life is to remove the negativity and embrace the positively. Each decision we take teaches us something or the other. We all have a new set of experiences with every new move we take in life. 

This all may just look like a thought process but this though process is something that change the life of many around us. The way we perceive things is all a matter of thoughts. To nurture our thoughts is our responsibility and they make us take decisions which affects our life.

The way we take life and the lessons of life depends only on our thinking and to change it for good we just need to change our thinking.